It’s important to know that chaos creates opportunity (if we let it). At some point we must learn to embrace the awkward experiences that come along with change and say thank you for them. Believe it or not, even though those seemingly undesirable times of heavy uncertainty and resistance breeds the exact breakthrough and peace we’ve been searching for.
Yet instead of flowing with the knowing of that and expecting the re-structuring process to be a little hectic for a temporary period, we fight it and tell ourselves we shouldn’t be going through it. As if we expect life to have zero challenges and uphill battles. So when the chaos occurs it’s a complete surprise and shock to the system every time. And on top of that, it often takes hitting extreme amounts of worry, fear, and anxiety before we can’t take it anymore and finally decide to let go and surrender. We wave the white flag and ask for help in a reactive state versus getting out ahead of it.
For me personally, I lived in that “suffer, denial, suffer again until I broke, only THEN ask for help” pattern for a long time before I decided to do something different.
A lot of this pattern loop happened for me when I was in an unfulfilling career. AKA the outside influence that somewhere down the line I decided determined my value and how much I was worth (so the stress felt much more intense).
I remember I used to always carry make-up in my bag so that when I got to my parking garage at work, I could fix my face so that no one knew I cried.
I would get out of my car, put my headphones on, and play another mindset podcast to help me feel inspired/motivated on my walk into the office.
I hated the meetings (that let’s agree, should’ve been emails).
I hated how I felt at my desk.
I hated that no matter how hard I worked I never felt like I was doing enough (𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗲𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵).
The worst part was that my day job was Recruiting, helping OTHERS find their dream job while I wasn’t in mine.
One day I had 𝙚𝙣𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝 (aka the breaking point that was a lot more painful than that just sounded) and started game planning on the side so that my 9-5 reality would have hopes of changing.
This included a lot of random things because I didn’t actually know what to do in this moment. Here’s where I started in my search for clarity:
Praying, journaling, researching subjects I had an interest in on Google, attending events, taking classes to SEE if it could be something I enjoyed, chatting with LOTS of different people and just letting my curiosity lead the way.
Most importantly what this proved to me was that I was definitely right earlier when I said it often takes a painful and hard AF breaking point before we take action. But what this also did for me was show me that once we take an ounce of action (even a baby step) it creates a wave of empowerment. A huge wave that creates enough momentum to then take the next step and then even the one after that. Then we eventually start to sense some clarity.
But wouldn’t it be easier if we got out ahead of the needing to go through the breaking point? What if we released our fears and made steps anyways? What if we trusted the pain we felt and tuned in, instead of waiting for it to get so loud that it breaks us?
Although my next steps led me to leave corporate and become an entrepreneur, it’s not even about that. You don’t have to become an entrepreneur to be fulfilled in life.
It’s about being able to choose a path that makes you HAPPIER (even if that’s a switch to a different company or taking a different job title).
Sitting for too long in frustration (and doubt) causes a life that honestly sucks. And there’s no point in living like that. Crazy thing is that we are actually supposed to enjoy this life… what a concept!
I remember sitting at my desk and promising myself that if I ever found a way to my own fulfillment, I’d help people find a way to theirs.
That’s one of the reasons I’m writing this as we speak. To help people feel not so alone but also encouraged to take action and get about the business of living a life you love. If you don’t know quite how to do that, know there are resources available for you (like Life Coaches, wink* wink*)
If you’re seeking more for your life but just feel a little lost right now and unsure of what to do or how to move, know that it is a natural part of the growth process. The next higher level you requires being uncomfortable for a bit and facing resistance. But we must be able to sit with it and allow it to teach us something valuable to take into the next level.
And when you do, you’ll laugh at how you were ever so worried. You’ll know it all worked out exactly as it was meant to.
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This included a lot of random things because I didn’t actually know what to do in this moment. Here’s where I started in my search for clarity:
Praying, journaling, researching subjects I had an interest in on Google, attending events, taking classes to SEE if it could be something I enjoyed, chatting with LOTS of different people and just letting my curiosity lead the way.
Most importantly what this proved to me was that I was definitely right earlier when I said it often takes a painful and hard AF breaking point before we take action. But what this also did for me was show me that once we take an ounce of action (even a baby step) it creates a wave of empowerment. A huge wave that creates enough momentum to then take the next step and then even the one after that. Then we eventually start to sense some clarity.
But wouldn’t it be easier if we got out ahead of the needing to go through the breaking point? What if we released our fears and made steps anyways? What if we trusted the pain we felt and tuned in, instead of waiting for it to get so loud that it breaks us?
Although my next steps led me to leave corporate and become an entrepreneur, it’s not even about that. You don’t have to become an entrepreneur to be fulfilled in life.
It’s about being able to choose a path that makes you HAPPIER (even if that’s a switch to a different company or taking a different job title).
Sitting for too long in frustration (and doubt) causes a life that honestly sucks. And there’s no point in living like that. Crazy thing is that we are actually supposed to enjoy this life… what a concept!
I remember sitting at my desk and promising myself that if I ever found a way to my own fulfillment, I’d help people find a way to theirs.
That’s one of the reasons I’m writing this as we speak. To help people feel not so alone but also encouraged to take action and get about the business of living a life you love. If you don’t know quite how to do that, know there are resources available for you (like Life Coaches, wink* wink*)
If you’re seeking more for your life but just feel a little lost right now and unsure of what to do or how to move, know that it is a natural part of the growth process. The next higher level you requires being uncomfortable for a bit and facing resistance. But we must be able to sit with it and allow it to teach us something valuable to take into the next level.
And when you do, you’ll laugh at how you were ever so worried. You’ll know it all worked out exactly as it was meant to.
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It’s important to know that chaos creates opportunity (if we let it). At some point we must learn to embrace the awkward experiences that come along with change and say thank you for them. Believe it or not, even though those seemingly undesirable times of heavy uncertainty and resistance breeds the exact breakthrough and peace we’ve been searching for.
Yet instead of flowing with the knowing of that and expecting the re-structuring process to be a little hectic for a temporary period, we fight it and tell ourselves we shouldn’t be going through it. As if we expect life to have zero challenges and uphill battles. So when the chaos occurs it’s a complete surprise and shock to the system every time. And on top of that, it often takes hitting extreme amounts of worry, fear, and anxiety before we can’t take it anymore and finally decide to let go and surrender. We wave the white flag and ask for help in a reactive state versus getting out ahead of it.
For me personally, I lived in that “suffer, denial, suffer again until I broke, only THEN ask for help” pattern for a long time before I decided to do something different.
A lot of this pattern loop happened for me when I was in an unfulfilling career. AKA the outside influence that somewhere down the line I decided determined my value and how much I was worth (so the stress felt much more intense).
I remember I used to always carry make-up in my bag so that when I got to my parking garage at work, I could fix my face so that no one knew I cried.